Woman Lists Every Red Flag So She Won’t Go Back, Including Being Dragged By The Ankles, Left In Public, And Told To “Be Obedient”

A woman recently shared her tumultuous relationship on Reddit, detailing a series of alarming incidents to emphasize the red flags that had become all too apparent. She felt trapped, and in a desperate attempt to break free, she decided to make a list of everything that had gone wrong to remind herself why she needed to leave for good.

Just yesterday, her partner pressured her into inviting him to a brunch she had organized with her friends. When her friends made it clear they were uncomfortable with him attending, she called to tell him not to come. This decision did not sit well with him. He showed up hours later, turning what was supposed to be a fun gathering into an awkward and uncomfortable scene. Following brunch, they argued, and the woman found herself so distressed that she ended up throwing up on the floor, begging him to stay. It was a low point, and one that left her feeling more broken than ever.

In the midst of her distress, she noticed him casually checking himself out in the mirror, oblivious to the chaos around them. It was a telling sign of how self-absorbed he had become. After the incident, he pressured her to take a drive to clear the air, but instead, they ended up arguing about their relationship once again. He accused her of choosing others over him, insisting that he was a good man and she should be obedient, claiming that he needed to lead.

This wasn’t the first time she felt his controlling nature. In the early days of their relationship, he rushed her into discussions about marriage just six months in. She ended up paying for their engagement party while he lost his job. She caught him looking up women on Instagram, even after he promised to stop, and he often shared bizarre conspiracy theories that made her feel uneasy.

As their marriage unfolded, things only worsened. They lived in his parents’ basement, a decision she had initially opposed. He struggled to find consistent work, losing his job three times over the year they were married, while he made questionable financial decisions, like buying multiple cars. He often threatened her, saying he would take legal action against her if she ever left. There was an unsettling dependency on his mother, too—he would leave their bed to sleep next to her, despite her discomfort.

The turning point for her was an incident where he dragged her out of a room by her ankles, a shocking act that left her feeling terrified. He would often threaten to leave her in unfamiliar places, and his aggressive behavior escalated to the point where he physically confronted her brother. The police were called, and she made the decision to leave the apartment they had rented together.

As they attempted a separation, his family demanded that she pay for his legal fees, claiming that she had fabricated accusations against him. He withheld the religious divorce from her for six months, insisting on financial support while he remained unemployed and was dating other women. Even after he was served with a no-contact order, he continued to reach out, trying to maintain control.

After a brief period of reconciliation, he seemed to have “changed” after completing a PARs course. He was charming and attentive, even showering her with gifts. However, behind this façade, he continued to exert control, suggesting they should prioritize his needs. He kept making large purchases and was insistent that she should prioritize him over her financial independence and connections with friends.

Throughout her ordeal, it became clear to her that she needed to escape his grasp once and for all. After enduring so much pain, it was evident that the relationship was unhealthy and dominated by manipulation and control. This time, as she compiled her list of red flags, she hoped it would serve as a reminder of the chaos that had enveloped her life and the importance of finding a path toward healing and independence.