Hi all, this is a throwaway account because I really need to get this off my chest. The past few weeks have been nothing short of chaotic for me and my partner. We’ve been together for several years and had plans for marriage, but things have taken a sharp turn for the worse.
It all started when I discovered that my partner had been telling friends about these wild threesomes that involved me, them, and some imaginary third person. To make matters worse, they even fabricated stories about arguments that supposedly stemmed from jealousy over this non-existent individual. I was blindsided when I found out that multiple people had been fed this fiction.
My immediate reaction was disbelief and anger. I needed to re-establish boundaries, so I cut off all physical contact and intimacy for over six weeks. It was the longest dry spell we’ve ever experienced and admittedly the worst state our relationship had been in. During this time, my partner bombarded me with apologies, pledging how sorry they were for hurting me and swearing that they would never jeopardize our relationship again.
Just when I thought we were getting back on track, I discovered something even more shocking. They had been secretly purchasing content from OnlyFans and other similar platforms, racking up bills of around £80 while trying to hide it from me. I stumbled upon this after checking out an old phone that they had kept stashed away specifically for this “degenerate behavior.” Initially, my partner tried to deny it, but the evidence was undeniable.
I want to clarify that I have no issue with the idea of consuming adult content; it’s more about the secrecy, the timing, and the lies that accompanied it. Our sex life has been healthy, even though medication has altered their ability to perform at certain times. The desire is there, but the physical capability sometimes isn’t. Dealing with all of this has been an emotional rollercoaster for me.
My partner has been trying hard to show remorse and take accountability for their actions. They’ve deleted apps, opened up their accounts, and are willing to make changes. But honestly, how can I trust that they won’t just revert to the same behavior after everything we’ve been through? The six-week period of me suffering emotionally didn’t seem enough to wake them up to what they were doing. I can’t shake the feeling that they’ll continue to hurt me.
As proof of their commitment to fixing things, they’ve been transparent this time around, but I still feel uneasy. I plan to dig deeper and review their phone again because I suspect there might be more hidden accounts or content they didn’t disclose. It’s hard to shake off the sense of betrayal, and I’ve already started to withdraw emotionally. I’ve gone back to sleeping separately and returning to a state of zero intimacy because, frankly, I’m disgusted by the lies.
Despite everything, I still have love for my partner. I want to make this work, but I’m at a crossroads. I don’t believe I deserve to feel this way, yet I am also struggling with the idea of just walking away. Is there a way to rebuild trust after all of this? Or am I just setting myself up for more heartache?
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