It was a typical afternoon for a 22-year-old woman, fresh out of the salon and feeling confident with her new look. She had just spent a few hours beautifying herself and was now walking back to her dorm, feeling a nice breeze against her skin. Little did she know, her ordinary day would soon take a wild twist.

As she strolled down the sidewalk, enjoying the late afternoon sun, a car suddenly made a sharp U-turn. It was a move straight out of a Fast & Furious movie, and it came to a screeching halt right next to her. The driver, a white guy, rolled down his window and flashed a casual smile. “Hey, how are you?” he greeted her. On the surface, it seemed like just another day, another stranger trying to strike up a conversation. However, his next words quickly shifted the mood.
“I have a weird question,” he continued, and she could feel her stomach tighten in anticipation. Caution bells rang in her mind, yet she played along. “Go ahead,” she replied, curious yet wary. “Have you ever kissed a white guy?” he asked, as if this were a standard question one would ask a stranger on the street. She hesitated for a moment—caught off guard by the bluntness—but finally answered, “Uh… yeah?”
The guy seemed pleased with her answer, but his next line left her mind racing. “I’ve never kissed a black girl,” he said, without skipping a beat. “I’d like to try.” The compliment about her beauty came in right afterward, as if it was a necessary buffer to soften the weirdness of his initial statement. “So where are you going? Get in and I’ll drop you and kiss you.”
At that moment, her brain was firing on all cylinders. The way he had packaged this bizarre blend of fetishization, casual flirting, and what felt suspiciously like a kidnapping attempt into one breath was astounding—truly an Olympic-level performance in cringeworthy social interaction. There was a mixture of disbelief and irritation stirring inside her.
“No thanks, I’ll manage,” she quickly responded, her voice steadier than she felt. She didn’t want to engage any further, and she certainly felt no need to explain why his proposition was not just inappropriate but incredibly unsettling. He didn’t push back; he simply replied with a nonchalant “ok bye” and drove off. As the car pulled away, she let out a breath she didn’t realize she’d been holding. Just like that, the bizarre encounter was over.
As she continued on her way to her dorm, her mind replayed the incident. She wondered how someone could think that this sort of approach was acceptable. Did men really believe that they could just throw out fetishistic questions and expect them to be received with enthusiasm? It felt more like “collecting experiences” than having genuine interest in another person. It was disheartening to think about the assumptions people made based on ethnicity and the objectification that followed.
Reflecting on the interaction, she felt a mix of frustration and confusion. It was a stark reminder of the complexities of societal norms and interactions, especially when it came to race and attraction. The world was a strange place sometimes, and encounters like this were a part of that bizarre tapestry. She couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off—this guy hadn’t just been looking for a ride or a kiss; he was hunting for an experience, a trophy to add to his collection.
With every step she took towards her dorm, she thought about how these sorts of interactions often went unexamined. She realized other women probably had similar stories, and it was disheartening to think about how the lines between curiosity, desire, and sheer disrespect could blur so easily. In the end, all she could do was shake off the encounter, reminding herself that her worth wasn’t defined by anyone else’s whims.
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