“This man sent me a list of requirements before our first date. I’m not kidding. He claims he’s a millionaire.” That is how @spicygirlie0, who posts as Landry, opens a 90 second video where she reads the text out line by line. Text on screen reads “The millionaire I was supposed to go on a date with sent me list of requirements,” and her caption asks a question: “Should I drop the screenshot?”
She films herself close to the lens in a living room, wearing a blue top, with the on screen text pinned at the top of the frame and her words appearing a few at a time as captions near the bottom. After her opening lines she says “This is the list.” She does not name him, and she does not show his name on screen. The list, as she reads it, begins with a header, “First date requirements,” and a line asking her to “please read” before accepting his invitation.
The first requirement is that she sign an NDA, a nondisclosure agreement, with a link to be sent to her email once she replies. Then, in the order she reads them: she must be “emotionally available, but not overly emotional,” because he does not like drama. She must arrive “exactly seven minutes early,” with the note that “five is suspicious” and “10 is disrespectful.” She must have her own car, because “I will not be picking you up. I have a driver.” She must be comfortable with spontaneous international travel and hold a passport with at least six months remaining.
The requirements keep going. She must be able to order confidently at a restaurant “without saying whatever you want.” She may not post him on social media until the third date, and the reason he gives is “my ex wife’s cousin follows me.” She must hold a conversation without mentioning her zodiac sign in the first 15 minutes. She must be comfortable signing the NDA “before dessert.” If the date goes well, she “may receive a second date invitation within three to five business days.” The list ends: “Most importantly, I need you to understand that I’m actually a very humble person.”
Twice she breaks into the reading with a remark of her own. After the “order confidently” line she says “I would never,” and after the three to five business days line she says “But I don’t even know if I wanna make the first date.” Once the list is done, she says he has “lost his mind” and that she is not going on a date with him. Then she turns it into a question for her viewers: whether to go anyway “and just see what the personality is like,” because “he seemed really nice.” She says the two had been “vibing” when the text arrived. She adds that she checked his social media accounts and that he is friends with “all these women,” and that she will show what he is commenting. By the end she says “I’m thinking it’s a no for me.” The video does not show the screenshot of the text itself, which is what the caption asks about, and it does not say what she decided to post.
One requirement on the list can be checked against an official source. The passport line, at least six months remaining, reflects a rule the U.S. State Department describes on its international travel checklist: some countries, especially in Europe, require that your passport be valid for at least six more months after your travel dates, and not every country does. For a trip with someone who wants spontaneous international travel, the rule is real, though it applies to the destination and not to the date. The State Department points travelers to the Entry, Exit, and Visa Requirements section of each country’s page for the specifics.
If you are the one drafting expectations for a date, her reading suggests a short test: would you say it out loud to the person across the table? Preferences about timing, transport or privacy are easier to hear when they come with a reason and a question, such as asking whether she minds not being posted on social media early on. And if you are on the receiving end of a list like this, her video shows one workable response, which is to read it plainly, decide whether the rest of the conversation outweighs it, and put the question to people you trust before replying.
