New York City creator Victoria Vega, who posts as @itsvictoriavega on TikTok, says she has been on bad dates before. But a first date in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, earned a title all its own. She calls it the worst first date of her life, and once you hear the details, it is hard to argue.
A Date That Went Wrong From the Start
Victoria says the trouble started almost immediately. Her date seemed to be under the influence and barely talked, which made the evening feel more like an awkward silence than a conversation. When he did open up, it was to share personal habits that most people would keep to themselves, including that he skips shampoo and conditioner, along with a bathroom habit she was not expecting to hear about on a first date.
Then there was his attention. Instead of focusing on her, she says he kept looking at other women around them. Eventually she asked him directly whether he was high or whether he was even interested in her.
His answer did not help. After a single drink, she says, he leaned toward her and asked her to smell his hair. That was the moment the date went from bad to legendary.
Her caption shows how unreal the whole thing felt. “thought I was getting punk’d,” she wrote, before adding that she went to get a margarita pizza slice afterward and thought she had recorded it.
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Pizza as the Real Date
The detail viewers loved most was how she recovered. Rather than sitting through more of the night, she wrapped it up and headed to a pizza place to reset. That small act of self care became a theme in the comments, with people sympathizing, joking about her date’s behavior and agreeing that nobody should feel obligated to sit through a date that is going this badly.
Her video also taps into something many New York daters talk about. With so many people and so many apps, it is easy to end up across the table from a stranger who is nothing like their profile. Most dates are simply forgettable. Every so often, one turns into a story you tell for years.
You Are Allowed to Leave
The biggest lesson in Victoria’s story is one plenty of people need to hear. You do not owe anyone an entire evening. If a date seems impaired, is disrespectful or makes you uncomfortable, ending it early is not rude. It is smart.
First Date Red Flags Worth Taking Seriously
- They arrive impaired or keep drinking heavily. Showing up altered to meet someone new says a lot about how seriously they take it.
- They do not ask you a single question. A good first date is a conversation, not an interview or a monologue.
- Their attention keeps drifting. Constantly watching other people or a phone is a clear sign of how they will treat you later.
- They overshare in ways that make you uncomfortable. Openness is nice. Shock value on a first date usually is not.
- They ignore polite signals. If you try to wrap things up and they push back, trust your instincts.
Simple Ways to Make Leaving Easy
- Keep first dates short. A coffee or one drink gives you a natural end point.
- Get yourself there and home. Your own ride means you can leave whenever you want.
- Tell a friend where you are. A quick text with the location and a check in time adds peace of mind.
- Have a simple exit line ready. Something like “I’m going to head out, take care” is all you need.
- Plan a treat for after. Victoria’s pizza stop is a great reminder to end the night on your own terms.
Bad dates are part of dating, but they do not have to ruin a night. Victoria turned hers into a pizza run and a story that thousands of people could laugh about with her.
Credit for the original video goes to @itsvictoriavega on TikTok.
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