Woman Says Her First Date Told Her He Would Not Have a 36 Year Old in the Front Seat of His Ferrari, So She Got Up and Left Before Taking a Sip of the Wine He Pushed Her to Order

Left: cover still from a TikTok video by @laurenraeofsunshine. Right: a red sports car parked on a brick street (Unsplash photo by Sanjae Garcia).

“Obviously I’m not gonna have some, like, 36 year old sitting next to me in my front seat of my Ferrari.” Lauren, who posts as @laurenraeofsunshine, says a man told her that across the table on their first date. “I am 36 years old,” she says. “He knows that from my profile.”

She tells the story sitting in a car, in a video posted on October 2, 2026, while a red flag counter on screen climbs from “1” to “We lost count.” Her caption calls it the “worst first date experience yet.” By the end of her account she has walked out with dinner ordered and, she says, without a sip of her wine.

She says they matched on The League, talked on the app, moved to a phone call, and then he asked her to dinner. She met him at the restaurant, which is her rule: “I never let a man pick me up on the first date because what if I need to leave.” She adds that she does not want a man to know where she lives before she has met him.

The first minute went well. She says the hostess recognized her because he had asked her to look for “a really, really pretty girl,” and he got up and walked over as she was led to the table. She noticed the hostess glance from him to her with “this weird look on her face” and thought nothing of it.

About ten minutes in, the waiter asked about drinks. Her date said he was not drinking but told her to order something. She answered that if he was not drinking, she would not either: “I kind of love being sober on a first date.” He kept going. “No, you should really get something,” she quotes him saying, and then, “Just get something.” She marks that as the first red flag.

Next she asked about his last relationship of significance. His answer, she says, was that it was a few years ago, lasted about a year and was “purely sexual.” His longest relationship was “a few years,” and she says it seemed hard for him to get that out. She puts his age at “38, 39.” She let it pass, saying first dates are awkward and she gives everyone grace.

Then she asked what he was looking for. She says he thought hard and told her physical attraction was “probably the number one thing,” because two people who are attracted to each other can always make up after a fight, even one where they do not talk for two weeks. Her thought at that point: “I’m probably never gonna see this man again.” She stayed anyway.

When the waiter came back offering wine or appetizers, her date again told her to get a glass of wine. She asked whether he would have one. He said no. “Visibly annoyed,” by her own description, she asked for whatever white wine they had and ordered the salmon coconut curry.

She asked whether emotional intimacy mattered to him. “That comes down the line,” he said. She asked what in her profile had made him interested. “Oh, you’re very pretty.” She asked if that was really all, and that is when he made the Ferrari remark.

With food on the way she decided to stay “for the plot.” He told her she seemed really nice. She said he seemed nice too. “No, I’m mean,” she quotes him answering. “I’m very selfish.” In a relationship, he told her, “it’s all about me.” She says he went on to explain that he did not care about a relationship and wanted someone pretty next to him whom he was paying to be there. His profile, she says, had mentioned therapy and being emotionally available.

That ended it. “I couldn’t even stay there for the plot,” she says. She told him, “I’m sorry, I’m not the girl for you. I gotta go,” wished him a nice evening and left.

On the way out, she says, the hostess stopped her to ask what happened, because “that man comes in here all the time on dates,” and said she had doubted the match when she saw the two of them together. Lauren blocked him right afterward. “I didn’t get to have a sip of my wine,” she says. She adds that she had never walked out of a date before, even ones she knew were not going to work.

How She Set Up the Date So That Leaving Took One Sentence

Get yourself there and back. Her rule of meeting at the restaurant is the reason she could stand up in the middle of the meal without arranging a ride or handing over her address.

Use the phone call for the questions she saved for the table. She had already spoken to him by phone before dinner. The three questions that got the answers she walked out on were about his last significant relationship, what he was looking for, and what in her profile had interested him. All three can be asked before you agree to a restaurant.

Say no to the drink once, to the waiter. She turned it down three times to her date and still ended up ordering wine she did not want and never tasted. “Nothing for me, thanks,” said to the person taking the order, closes the subject.

Have an exit line ready and keep it short. Hers had no argument in it and nothing for him to answer: “I’m not the girl for you. I gotta go.” If you have ordered and want to cover your own share, the host stand is on the way out.

Block the number before you start the car. She says she did it immediately.